Shame: Are you burdened with social stigma or self-doubt?
Alcoholics Anonymous, the 12-step program for those who have experienced alcoholism, began amidst shame and suspicion in the 1930s. Today, the organization and its members have become mainstream. When someone at a dinner party says, “No thanks, I’m in AA,” when offered a glass of wine, there is often respect and even admiration at such self-discipline.
When Vulnerability Meets Silence
Contrast that sentiment with the reaction when someone reveals he is in recovery for sex addiction: a quiet hush falls over the group, followed by a period of awkward silence. Someone abruptly changes the subject, and the poor man, who is learning to be more vulnerable, wishes he would’ve kept his big mouth shut.
The Lingering Stigma of Sex Addiction
The stigma that once enshrouded those in AA recovery has faded a bit over time. That same stigma for those experiencing other types of addictions, however, remains persistent. There is a strong stigma that accompanies the notion of sex addiction: “child molester,” “voyeur,” “exhibitionist,” “pervert,” etc. These more rare forms of sexual behavior are at the extreme fringe of an epidemic that now affects millions around the world. It was in fact Dr. Patrick Carnes, noted expert in the field of sex addiction recovery, that said, “Sexual addiction is an epidemic.”
The Heavy Weight of Shame
That stigma, the weight of public judgment, and the misunderstanding of many all contribute to a huge burden the sex addict is carrying: the weighty burden of shame.
Taking the First Step Toward Healing
The path to recovery doesn’t have to be walked alone. Whether you're struggling with shame, seeking understanding, or simply looking for someone to listen, there is compassionate support available. Coaching for sexual addiction offers a non-judgmental space to explore your patterns, rebuild trust in yourself, and move toward a healthier, more connected life. Through honest conversation, coaching, and community, healing is not only possible—it’s within reach.
Self-reflection: Do you recognize the patterns of shame in your own life? How is shame causing destruction for you? What is shame? Where does it come from? And what, if anything, can be done about it?